Are you good in bed?

So...  the age old question... Are YOU good in bed? 

This is for all my girls out there.  You know ladies, it's hard to tell if you are actually good in bed.  Guys are simple -- especially when it comes to sex.  How rare is it that a guy doesn't cum from sex?  No matter how bad the girl is?  Yes, that's right - it's rare.  But if you are anything like me - you want to be not good, but GREAT.  So how can you tell if you are good in bed, or basically just place for him to bury his weiner.

As always, yourtango.com's ideas and then my own in italic.

1. He clenches his hands and feet. A physical sign that a guy is in complete ecstasy is if he's clenching his hands and feet. When you see your guy doing this, take it as a sign he's holding on for dear life, making sure that the encounter doesn't end prematurely. After all, what you're doing to him at the time might be just a little too good.  So clenching is good?  I will watch for that.  But it might be difficult unless you have extra eyes? 

2. He wants to do it again right away. When you've really blown his mind, he won't be able to get enough. Just thinking about the sex you had will be so arousing that he'll want to do it again. So, if he seems particularly virile, pat yourself on the back sister...you're doing something right.  Does this mean the alternative is true?  If he avoids you or if he doesn't want to go for a two-fer you aren't that good?  Ouch. 

3. He remains really flirty afterwards. Another sign that he can't stop thinking about the sex you've had is if he stays heavily flirty afterwards. Many guys say that after an amazing time, they'll send multiple saucy texts to their girl to show her how into her they are. And with the extra flirting, they're building up anticipation for next time. Bonus!  So if he keeps sending you dirty text messages or emails afterwards that's a good thing?  Even if sometimes they can get a bit overboard? 

4. He's very touchy feeling through out the day. A guy who is into you will probably be touch feely (unless he's really shy or completely opposed to PDA of course). A sign you're having great sex is if he becomes even more touchy feely. Quite literally, he's so aroused, he's having a hard time keeping his hands to himself. While flirty texts may be his verbal reminder of how much he wants you, his constant touches are his physical reminder.  A hug, a kiss?  A handsy man is a good man.

5. He tells you it was awesome. This one is pretty obvious, but if a guy tells you you were amazing, he thinks you were amazing. He's not saying it to be polite, he's saying it to tell you to keep doing whatever you're doing. Don't brush off his compliments, take them to heart...you sex kitten!  How about if he tells you that you are the best ever?  Does that count?  If so, I'm golden!

6. It was great for you. As the saying goes, "it takes two to tango." If the sex felt awkward or uncomfortable to you, it probably felt that way to him too. If you thought it was hot and passionate, then guess what, he did too. Perhaps the easiest gauge of how good the sex is for him is how good the sex is for you.  Hell yeah.  We are women, and women are complex.  So if it's that good for you... then damn it, it better be awesome for him.

7. He's trying new moves. Most men are pretty competitive by nature. When the things you do are blowing him out of the water, he's going to feel the need to put up a more impressive showing. If he starts pulling out moves you haven't seen him do before, take it as a sign that he wants to please you as much as you're pleasing him and is pulling out all the stops. And if his new moves aren't pleasing you, do let him know. With good communication and guidance from you, he too can become a rock star in the bedroom. Excellent.  Keep trying it out on me!