Shocker... Some men don't want sex!!! WHY?!?!

So... guys have heard all the excuses in the book.  You know - I have a headache, I'm tired, blah blah blah.  (and I will note that I feel very very sorry for these men, an excuse once in awhile is one thing - but I hear bitches the world over are making excuses all the time and that's just not cool!)

Now, the no sex movement is catching to the male gender **gasp** according to Ian Kerner a sexuality counceler (how does one get that job and best selling author and owner of blog/website on sex - GoodInBed.  Apparently, low sex drive in males is at an all time high - oh no! - and there are a number of reasons why.  If you are one of the VERY unlucky females who have encountered a man who doesn't want sex (and god forbid this never does happen to you!) these are some of the reasons why.

Biological.
You know the old body isn't working the way it used to.  Ian Kerner sites physical causes of low sexual desire such as heart disease to antidepressants to alcohol or drug use to even low levels of tetesterone.  Boo!  All of those sound like the body is getting older, and older means all kinds of crap is happening - just ask my body, and at 30 it seems like everything is deciding to change, break and just not work the way it did just 6 months ago.  This is such crap, who said we had to get older?  If it's biological, sounds like someone needs to make a visit to the doctor - sex is a very important part of our health - right?

Emotional.
Any girl knows that a man has a very fragile psyche.  Even the cockiest guy in the world has some serious self esteem issues tied to his cock.  And if that self esteem is shattered that cock is surely not going to going up anytime soon.  Sucks for you!  Ian Kerner says that other types of emotional issues can leave the cock limp and in this time of emotional crisis of job changes/loss, financial worries and other such crap sex is not high on a guys mind because he may feel like less of a man (bitch of it is that sex can be a great stress reliever!)

Relationship.
So you don't have a great relationship?  You know you argue all the time?  Do you really expect him to sleep with you.... seriously... How stupid are you?  Ian Kerner points out that his libido surely might not be diminished but he's not going to waste it on  you - he might claim he's not in the mood - but he's definately going to be utilizing some personal mastrubation time with some good porn, visiting some strip clubs or even having any affair.  Just because some arguement is taking place out of the bedroom doesn't mean it won't manifest in bedroom activities.  If  your relationship is solid then your sex life will be solid.  The old addage of makeup sex doesn't always hold true.  And you can only maintain a relationship based on hot makeup sex for so long. 

Porn.

Porn is great, don't get me wrong.  But it's great if used in the right context.  The wrong context is if a man (or a woman) uses porn as a subsitute for the real thing.  Ian Kerner says that men are mastrubating 50% - 500% more than they wold normally without Internet porn (ahh, the miracles of the internet!).  Basically, if you are mastrubating to porn all the time, then you aren't able to get it up in the bedroom and leaving your woman high and dry. 

 
Now, let me tell you... Guys - they are used to striking out.  They don't take it personally.  Women, we are emotional creatures.  If a guy turns us down we feel like it's all our fault - and you don't want a weepy woman around feeling like she's to blame.  Besides, if you turn down a woman - she's a lot less likely to initiatate in the future, and you guys are always bitching about girls not initiating sex.