Friday, June 29, 2012

You can't cheat with this wedding band!


Readers of this blog will know one thing, I'm against cheating.  Completely and totally against cheating.  This attitude has not always been popular, and in fact I've lost a couple of very close friends for being upset that they did cheat.  But I haven't waivered on this idea.  I've seen way to many people devestatingly hurt by cheating to even given it a second thought.

So, imagine my surprise and delight when I see the "anti-cheating ring!"  While, probably made as a joke (it comes from a website called "The Cheeky" after all) the idea behind the anti-cheating ring is brilliant. 

The ring, made out of strengthened Titanium is a simple silver-look on the outside, but engraved on the inside is "I'm married"  So if your man (or woman) is in a bar or something and takes off their ring to be cleaver, an imprint of "I'm married" stays strong - basically staking your claim.

It's the closest thing to branding your significant other - and I have nothing wrong with that!

Monday, June 25, 2012

Dating after 30...limited choices

So, I've been 30 for awhile (like nearly 2 years now).  I have found that the guys I meet or date generally fall into the following categories.  And hey, I came up with this list all on my own, I didn't even steal it from someone else. 

The Divorcee
Yes, I've hit that point where it's difficult to find a man who hasn't been married before.  And I have to say this can definitely go many ways (although it's not usually good).  Often people marry too young and grow up and out of love with each other and end up as divorced at an early age.  But more often than not there were issues in the marriage that necessitated it's end.  So what about dating these divorced men?  Well, on the positive side, they've lived through it (hopefully) learned a lesson or two and could be a great boyfriend or husband.  Hopefully they have decided that this time they are going to make it work.  But I would say a lot of divorced husbands are carrying some major baggage about women in general following a divorce as most of them aren't very amicable affairs. 

The Daddy
Ahh, the man with kids.  Now, I like kids, I really do.  But I'm not 100% sure about dating a man with kids.  Talk about baggage - words like custody, child support and baby mama strike fear in my heart.  It would be fine if it was just the kid, but there is so much more attached.  The kid is like a constant reminder that the man has slept with another woman (I kind of like to imagine that I'm always his first - as he is mine, I don't want to picture my man with another woman).  He will always be linked to an ex (that obviously didn't work out) but it's always a danger of those old flames reigniting!  And god forbid he has custody (especially full custody) because try finding a free night where you can go out on a date.  Time suck with kids is huge - and that's fine if the the kid is yours - but if it's not and you are trying to start (and/or maintain a relationship it's difficult).

The Psych Patient
You know the guy who carries more baggage than could fit in a normal sized home - yeah, that guy is always available for you!  Now, I'm not one to distract attention or dis anyone with mental illness (as I suffer myself) but this guy has more baggage and issues than even a psychiatrist could treat.  He could be neurotic, or super type A.  Any crap he has is his own and you really don't want to get involved.

The Picky Bastard
This guy is 30+ too, and honestly every minute we get older our available dating pool is getting smaller and smaller.  Think, in college and your early 20's your dating pool was Olympic sized, now we are looking at one of those cheap plastic kiddie pools you throw in the backyard and they get all scummy after the water has been in them too long (yes, do you get the methophore now!)  Anyway, the Picky Bastard is still acting like he's swimming in the Olympic pool and can pick and chose off the checklist in his head.  Note, you usually will get "dumped" by this guy for something off his list

The Cub
Ugh, I hate to admit this - but I guess I'm considered a "young" cougar.  EWWWW.  But I can count on both my hands and feet the number of YOUNG boys who have contacted me and wanting to date an older woman.  Just the whole idea seems a bit creepy to me.  I can handle a couple of years younger and a couple of years older - but once you get over 5 years age difference there can be some major issues!  He might not even know the Thong Song, while many of us rocked that out in school.

The (Seriously) Older Man
Like i said, I don't mind guys a couple of years older, but when you get over 10 years older it gets a little much.  Men already have a life expectancy shorter than woman.  I don't want to marry a guy, then have him croak and have to deal with all that.  Or god forbid, he's just looking at you as a trophy wife. 

Saturday, June 23, 2012

Honesty IS the best Policy

Boys (and girls too), let me give you a single piece of advice.  Just be honest.  Especially in dating.

Let your intentions be known up front.  If you just want to fuck some girl, and not date her - tell her.  Honestly.  You know what - girls just want to fuck for fun sometimes too.  And she just might be down with it.  Sometimes a fuck buddy situation is exactly what we want.

But if you want to just fuck some girl and not actually have any type of relationship with her - tell her that too.  Don't yank someone's chain and tell them you are actually interested in more than her naughty bits when you really aren't.  You are just leaving yourself open for a whole lot of bitching, crying and carrying on. 

So guys (and girls again) just tell the person (equal opportunity here) what you want and what you are looking for.  Give the other person the change to say yes or no. 

Monday, June 4, 2012

We are a sexting nation - or so they say.

So, I have some friends that also have blogs.  Their blogs are based on things like wine or dogs or whatever.  And you know what they get?  Free shit.  Like wine, or dog toys.  You know what I get?  Emails about some info graphic that someone wants me to post.  Yeah, fine, fine. I actually found this one interesting - but I want to start getting cool things like sex toys or free condoms.  You hear that people?!? 

Anyway, this came in my email the other day... From a strange place called NY Asian Out Call.  Turns out they are basically an Asian escort service in NYC.  According to them, they have a "Wide selection of well educated Asian girls offering high classic Asian companion. We have Chinese, Korean, Japanese, Thai and Singagore college students. They are young, and passionate. Don’t Hestiate Call now." 

I'm not 100% sure why they are sending me a rather neat info graphic, except other than to advertise their services.  so here you go! I have to admit though I can be a big sexter (if that's even a word) so I thought some of these were interesting statistics. 

** On a side note, I do not, nor would I ever endorse illegal activities **




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