50 Shades... of controversy

I'm a bit embarrassed to admit that I've written a whole lot of blog posts about the book series "50 Shades of Gray,"  but lets be serious... it's on everyone's collective mind and often pops up in popular culture and on the other blogs I scroll through for inspiration.

And just for hits, if you want to review, here are all my 50 Shades of Gray posts - with links!
1. More than 50 Shades... Literorica is EVERYWHERE  
2. 50 Shades Onesie!
3. The Bible or 50 Shades of Gray??

Let me say one thing.  The book - it's not good writing - this woman is surely not going to win any writing awards.  But you know one thing - it's fun.  It's fun to read and all that.  And it's not set out to be a writing winner - but something to read for fun.  Don't take it for something it's not.

Which brings me to another point.  For some reason in the past couple of weeks I've seen nothing but negative comments on the abusive aspects of the book.  ABUSIVE?  Seriously?  You know who thinks the books is all about  spouse abuse?  Those who have no clue about the BDSM lifestyle.  And to be fair, I'm not part of the lifestyle, but I read enough to know that in no way is it about abuse and harming your partner.

BDSM is all about control, submission and domination and that fine line between pleasure and pain.  Those who participate in it know exactly what they are doing, and likely enjoy it very much.  If you don't agree with the whole submission and domination aspects of the book - don't read it.  Don't bitch about it. 

And... no one is asking you to act out whats in the book (or any porn that you see), but there are millions of men out there that would L-O-V-E for their girlfriend or wife (or both!) to even considering trying one teeny little aspect of BDSM.  Don't be so judgemental and explore.  If you don't like what comes of it, stop it in the middle or say no. 

On that note, I do not in any way endorse abuse or negative domination in any way.  If your husband or boyfriend (or both - again, I'm being fair!) is abusing you in ANY way, damn it - get help.  Call the police, your best friend, or email me.  Someone can help you, and you should never put up with such BS.