So, not everyone agrees with my assessment of the threesome. Some people want to participate in such a sexual activity. And who am I to say that some sexual activity is wrong - ok, so I will say SOME are wrong or a little jacked up - but overall, I am pretty damn open and will fully accept and tell you how great most sexual activities are! But, as great as some say the threesome is - you have to establish a set of rules before you step into the (very crowded) bedroom. Maybe that's where my issues are. AskMen has a list of rules, I'll give them a chance, but I'm still not changing my mind - but someone might find this useful - right?
Threesome Rule #1: Establish the rules:
If you are going to all have this threesome you have to sit down and understand and respect each other's comfort levels when setting the threesome rules, says AskMen. And because you are likely attending the "event" with a significant other, you need to be absolutely clear on what she's comfortable with and to avoid what she's not (and know this in advance!). Hell, if you don't establish this BEFORE hand, I would expect this to be your last sexual experience with your woman. Penetrate when she doesn't want you to penetrate, kiss when she doesn't want you to kiss, and you are going to have one pissed off naked woman. And not an easy thing to get over. AskMen says that you must respect her limits and know that in a WMW (woman - male - woman) threesome, the "other" woman can often feel jealous, so you have to ensure that each woman gets enough attention, but ensure that the woman in which you are in a relationship receives the most attention. All of this adds up to the fact that the man might not be the "star" in the situation. Ummm. this is sure a lot of work... My take on all of this.... threesomes are better when you participate with someone who is not your girlfriend, otherwise, go for two people you aren't really in a relationship with.
Threesome rule no. 2: Be as giving as you can: AskMen says that while, as a man, the hope is that the two women would be there to please the man 100%, they are also there to please each other (they are also assuming that the girls want to please each other and not just the man.... that is an assumption - the other COULD be the case)... There is always the possibility that one of the three "participants" can be ignored, and the odd man or woman should do their best to get over it. My take, if you are the odd one out and you should just "get over it" Really, why are you participating in a threesome anyway? Why can't the odd one out just find their own sex partner (there are a shit load of people out there who just want sex (check CL!) all you have to do is ask), and just ignore the threesome, then they wouldn't have to worry about being left out. AskMen says the best way to approach a threesome is to forget your feelings and just be as generous with your hands and mouth as you can, and join in the "cycle" of sex that goes from person to person. If you are patient, the attention will come back to you. Hey people, if you just had "conventional sex" between two people, be it homosexual or heterosexual sex, you wouldn't have to worry about being left out, there are only two people, gasp! what a concept!!
Threesome rule no. 3: Keep yourself busy
When the other two participants are "busy" and you have nothing to do, AskMen tells me to keep myself busy, take matters into my own hands and find something to do. Now, I take offense. If I'm going to take care of my own business, I don't want to be in bed with someone else! I'm not into masturbation when I have the tools to not have to masturbate so close by! I'm not sure how you feel.... But I get the idea when you are in a threesome, there really shouldn't be that kind of lag time, if you aren't actively participating you shouldn't be letting things go soft or dry (as your body is concerned, if you don't know which apply to you - maybe you shouldn't even be considering a threesome....) Or if you don't want to take care of yourself, AskMen says to just use your wondering hands, there is a lot to touch, feel and all that.
Threesome rule no. 4: Be careful with penetration
AskMen sites novelist Tom Robbins, and calls penetration "that old show-stopper" and says it forms a serious bond between the man and just one woman, leaving the third woman partner out. So, the man in a WWM threesome should only penetrate when both women are comfortable with it. I'm a bit shocked actually by this one. And AskMen says that even when penetrating one woman, you must also pay attention to the other woman. Yes, men - you have to concentrate not only on your cock in a vagina, but on a whole other woman too. Talk about pressure! And I'm not one to know much about the man's body, but I would assume there could be a lot of build up of pressure if you know what I mean, so watch out for overstimulating, and AskMen agrees, they say that men shouldn't get "over excited" and forget about the other woman involved. The man must make sure that all three parties are sexually satisfied even if the man achieves climax first - that means he can't quit and take a nap if he cums first... Yes, shocking I know.
Threesome rule no. 5: Be safe
I would have to say this one should go without saying, but maybe I'm safer than most. This is AskMen's verbiage, and I'm just going to agree and copy... No kidding around. Safety is serious. Condoms are a necessity, obviously. Semen, vaginal fluid and menstrual blood transmit STDs, so use one specific hand to pleasure one specific woman and use the other hand on the other woman -- and keep it that way. You must never alternate.Likewise, if you're having intercourse with both women, you must also use a separate condom with each partner. As well, dental dams are a good precaution for oral sex. Lubricate the side that you place against a woman's skin for better sensation.
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